“You Good?” – The Lie We Tell Way Too Often 😐

“You good?”
Yeah, I’m good.
I’m straight.
I’m fine.
It’s cool.
All lies dressed in autopilot.

That question floats by like small talk, but sometimes it feels like a lifeline—
only we swat it away like a fly on the wall of our pain.
Because answering truthfully? That’s risky. Vulnerable.
It’s easier to fake it than to explain what’s unraveling on the inside.

We’re so used to performing wellness that we forget what honesty sounds like.
Because what if we weren’t okay?
Would they sit in the silence with us?
Would they hold space for our sadness without trying to fix it?
Or would it make them uncomfortable and make us feel like we’re “too much”?

So we say,
“I’m good.”
When really, we’re drowning in expectations,
barely hanging on,
or so numb we don’t even feel the panic anymore.

But let me say this:
You don’t have to lie to protect other people from your truth.
You don’t owe anyone the polished version of your pain.
And no, you’re not “too emotional,” “too heavy,” or “too dramatic.”
You’re human. And that’s not a flaw—it’s a feature. ❤️‍🩹

Start small.
Next time someone asks, “You good?”
Maybe say, “Not really, but I’m trying.”
Maybe say, “I don’t know.”
Or maybe say nothing, and just let the silence be honest for once.

Whatever you do, don’t keep swallowing your truth to keep the peace.
You deserve real love, not just “check-in” energy.
You deserve to be seen, not just scanned.

So here’s me asking, for real this time:
You good?
Because if you’re not, it’s okay to say so.
I promise—you’re not the only one.

🛟 If You’re Not Okay, That’s Okay:

📞 988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline – Just dial 988 anytime. Free. 24/7.
📱 Text “HELLO” to 741741 – Crisis Text Line (USA)
🌐 Therapy for Black Girls – Because we deserve safe spaces, too
🌱 NAMI HelpLine – Mental health resources, support groups, and real talk